9.
Its OK to cry
We
are human beings, and we have emotions. This is all quite natural. It is quite
natural to feel big things deeply, and it’s OK to let it all show. We don’t
have to be ashamed of our feelings. It is OK to cry. Sitting on our feelings
isn’t a good idea. They just get squashed that way. It’s far better to let them
out, deal with them, and then get on with things. If we go through trauma,
upsetting experiences, and difficult times, it certainly doesn’t help to be
thinking all the time that we have to keep a lid on it or people will think us
weak or out of control.
10.
Know where your true happiness come from
People
get addicted to buying new stuff or falling in love or whatever because they
just love that feeling without realizing that they already have it. They have
to keep having their “fix” because they think it’s the only way to get that
feeling going. The secret is knowing how to trigger it without anyone else or
anything else being involved. No, I don’t know. You have to find that one for
yourself. Clue: It’s the one place you’d never think of looking—yep, right
inside you.
11.know
when to walk away
You
may want to get even. Don’t get mad; walk away. This is much better than
getting even because it shows you have risen above whatever it is that is driving
you crazy. And there can be no better way of getting even than to ignore
something so completely it can be left behind. Letting go and walking away
means you are exercising control and good decision-making powers—you are making
your choice rather than letting the situation control you.
Bonus
Tip :Mind your manners
You’re
probably thinking that you have good manners already. Most of us believe we do.
However, the more you hurry and the more stress you are under, the more manners
are likely to slip. All of us, if we’re honest, will admit to forgetting to
properly express gratitude for something when frazzled by life or feeling a
huge temptation to push in front of somebody old when rushing to catch a bus.
However rushed and fraught you are (and following the Rules should make you
less so), you should always make the effort to show these good manners: •
Lining up without pushing • Complimenting people when you need to •Saying “good morning” • Thanking people
when they’ve looked after you or done something for you • Being hospitable •
Observing manners of other communities • Not grabbing the last piece of cake •
Being courteous and charming
